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35 Life Lessons I Wish I Knew in My 20s: A Guide to a More Purposeful Life

If only I had known these 35 truths back in my 20s—my 30s could have been even more powerful. Let these lessons give you a head start in living more wisely, purposefully, and joyfully.

1. Embrace Your Reality, Not Your Ideal

You can't choose your family. Stop dwelling on what you can’t control. Start with what you have.

2. Health is Mental Too

Move for your brain

Exercise isn’t just for your body—it sharpens your mind too. Walking and enough sleep? Underrated life hacks.

3. Don’t Let a Day Be Zero

Even 0.1 progress counts. Just don't be stagnant.

4. Avoid the Instant Gratification Trap

Anything that feels “too good too fast” often comes with long-term pain. That includes food, content, and habits.

5. Track Your Progress

If you don’t measure it, you can’t manage it. Start journaling.

6. External Validation is a Trap

The more you seek applause, the more lost you feel in comparison. Focus inward.

7. Ecosystem Matters

Choose your circle wisely

Your friends shape your future. Being “picky” with company isn’t snobbish—it’s strategic.

8. Embrace the Lonely Middle

The transition to a better version of yourself might feel isolating. Hang in there—your tribe is coming.

9. Be Present

Don’t stay stuck in the past or future. Value the now. Every moment could be your last with someone.

10. Guard Your Energy

Some people drain you. Walk away. Your social battery matters.

11. Stress is Training

Just like muscles grow from resistance, your mind strengthens through pressure. Reframe stress as privilege.

12. Learn Relentlessly

Focus on skills that add value. You’re like software—keep upgrading.

13. Know Your Expenses

Financial clarity = freedom. No hidden bills, no unnecessary debt.

14. Don’t Let Tech Own You

Gadgets can be tools or traps. Use them mindfully. Avoid mindless scrolling.

15. Hack Habits with “30-30-30”

• Start: Just do 30 seconds
• Continue: Commit to 30 minutes
• Consistency: Repeat for 30 days

16. Boredom Isn't Bad

Boredom is a signal. Use it to focus on what truly matters.

17. Substance Over Charisma

Charisma may charm you—but always check the core message.

18. Use Your Money to Create More

Don’t hoard—invest. Money reflects value. Make it grow.

19. Practice Deep Work

Have distraction-free blocks, especially in the morning. Focus is power.

20. Rule of 1:10 in Spending

If you can’t afford 10x the price, you can’t afford it. Period.

21. Speak Less, Listen More

Especially with mentors or people you admire. Absorb, don’t impress.

22. Don’t Wallow in Self-Pity

A little is okay. Too much? Repels people.

23. Expand Your Comfort Zone

Don’t just “leave it”—grow it. That’s how you step up without falling flat.

24. Stop Complaining

If you have the energy to complain, you have the energy to act. Do something.

25. Choose a Life Partner Wisely

They impact your entire future. This decision is massive.

26. Build Meaningful Routines

Morning rituals anchor you. Start with waking up early.

27. Don’t Chase Passion—Build Contribution

Passion isn’t always fun. It often hurts. Seek contribution instead.

28. Normalize Failure

Failure, disappointment—they’re all part of a great story.

29. Eat Better, Feel Better

In your 30s, food becomes fuel or poison. Choose wisely.

30. Smile Often

A smile can transform your mood and day. Try it now.

31. Confidence Requires Competence

Build real skills first. Confidence follows naturally.

32. Happiness Can’t Be Chased

It’s not a goal—it’s a side effect. Focus on creating, not chasing.

33. Say “I Love You” More

Don’t wait. Life is short. Be vulnerable.

34. Don’t Rush Success

Your 20s are not for peak success—they’re for building foundations.

35. Never Take Advice Without Context

Even this article. Always consider your own context before applying anything.

Conclusion

These life lessons aren’t just philosophy—they’re practices that shape your career, health, relationships, and self-worth. You don’t have to learn everything the hard way. Let experience—yours or others’—guide your next steps.

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Label: Self Development

References

• Video: 35 Pelajaran Hidup yang Harus Kamu Tahu di 20an
• Channel: Agusleo Halim
• Watch the full video here